Praise be to Allaah.
you did something very wrong for yourself and your religious commitment when
you agreed to form a haraam relationship with a Christian woman. As for
yourself, that is by committing the sin of zina for which Allaah warns of a
severe punishment and decrees the hadd punishment in this world: one hundred
lashes for one who is not married and stoning to death for one who is
married. As for your religious commitment, that is by giving a bad example
of Islam and its morals and rulings to those kuffaar, whether in the land
where you live or the family of the woman with whom you are living. How can
they respect Islam and the Muslims when they do not see any difference
between you and others of the people of the Book?
What you –and
your family who knew of your sin – must do is repent sincerely from this
great sin. You should realize that you did not only fall into the sin of
zina which Islam warns against even approaching, but you persisted in that
and lived with the woman as man and wife. This makes your sin worse than the
sin of others who may fall into the sin of immorality without continuing or
persisting in it.
(interpretation of the meaning):
“And those who
invoke not any other ilaah (god) along with Allaah, nor kill such person as
Allaah has forbidden, except for just cause, nor commit illegal sexual
does this shall receive the punishment.
torment will be doubled to him on the Day of Resurrection, and he will abide
therein in disgrace;
those who repent and believe (in Islamic Monotheism), and do righteous
deeds; for those, Allaah will change their sins into good deeds, and Allaah
is Oft‑Forgiving, Most Merciful”
information on the greatness of Allaah’s grace in accepting the repentance
of His slaves and that He accepts the repentance of the penitent no matter
how serious and numerous their sins, please see the answers to questions no.
It should be
noted that it is not permissible for you to marry this kitaabi woman unless
you repent sincerely to Allaah, and until you are certain that she will not
commit immoral actions with anyone and that she will not have boyfriends.
This is one of the conditions of marriage to a kitaabi woman.
(interpretation of the meaning):
(slaughtered cattle, eatable animals) of the people of the Scripture (Jews
and Christians) is lawful to you and yours is lawful to them. (Lawful to you
in marriage) are chaste women from the believers and chaste women from those
who were given the Scripture (Jews and Christians) before your time when you
have given their due Mahr (bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at
the time of marriage), desiring chastity (i.e. taking them in legal wedlock)
not committing illegal sexual intercourse, nor taking them as girlfriends”
should have done was to tell the one who did the marriage contract for you
about your situation and hers, so that he could have enjoined you to repent
and told you of the conditions of her being chaste and avoiding zina, and so
that you could wait for one menstrual cycle until it was established that
she was not pregnant, or until she gave birth if she was pregnant.
(may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
If a woman
commits zina, it is not permissible for the one who knows of that to marry
her unless two conditions are met:
her ‘iddah has ended. If she is pregnant as the result of zina then her
‘iddah ends when she gives birth, and it is not permissible to marry her
before she gives birth.
she repents from committing zina.
And he said:
If both conditions are met, it is permissible for the zaani (the man who
committed zina) or anyone else to marry her according to the majority of
scholars, including Abu Bakr, ‘Umar and his son, Ibn ‘Abbaas, Jaabir, Sa’eed
ibn al-Musayyab, Jaabir ibn Zayd, ‘Ata’, al-Hasan, ‘Ikrimah, al-Zuhri,
al-Thawri, al-Shaafa’i, Ibn al-Mundhir and ashaab al-ra’y.
Muhammad ibn Ibraaheem (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
It is not
permissible to marry a woman who has committed zina until she repents. If a
man wants to marry her then he must wait for one menstrual cycle to
establish that she is not pregnant before doing the marriage contract with
her. If it turns out that she is pregnant, it is not permissible for him to
do the marriage contract with her until after she gives birth.
al-Jaami’ah li’l-Mar’ah al-Muslimah
You do not
have the right to do the marriage contract in the courts that govern by
man-made laws, or in their churches, rather what you did by asking the imam
of the mosque to do the marriage contract was the right thing to do. There
is nothing wrong with confirming it in the courts for official purposes.
of the Standing Committee said:
proposal and acceptance are completed, along with all the other conditions
of marriage, and it is free from any impediments, then it is valid. If
confirming it legally (in the civil court) could serve some shar’i interests
of both parties, both now or in the future, then that must be done.
marriage contract is not recognized and no rights will be granted unless it
is confirmed in a non-shar’i court, then this does not affect the validity
of the marriage, but there is nothing wrong with confirming it in a
non-shar’i court if the aim is to record it for official purposes.
As for your
daughter, she is the product of an illegitimate relationship and it is not
permissible for her to be named after you, rather she should be named after
narrated from ‘Amr ibn Shu’ayb from his father that his grandfather said:
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) ruled that
whoever was born to a slave woman whom his father did not own or to a free
woman with whom he committed adultery, then he cannot be named after him and
he does not inherit from him, even if the one whom he claims is his father
acknowledges him. So he is the product of zina, whether his mother was a
free woman or a slave.
Abu Dawood (2265) and Ibn Maajah (2746); classed as hasan by al-Albaani in
Saheeh Abi Dawood.
of the Standing Committee said, concerning a similar case:
mentioned, who is the result of illicit relations with her mother, is not
your daughter according to sharee’ah, and it is not permissible for her to
be named after you, because she was born from haraam water, which is zina.
So she should be named after her mother and not after the one who committed
zina with her.
If it is not
possible to name the child after the mother in the land where the mother
lives, she may be given a name which does not belong to anyone in
particular, so she may be given a name to use in official papers and
See also the
answer to question no. 12283 – which is important – and also
We should also
remind you that it is haraam to settle in a kaafir land, and you should
learn a lesson from what happened to you and try to leave that land and
settle in a Muslim country where you will see Islam being practised openly
and you will be able to raise your children to follow Islam, be chaste and
have good attitudes.
answers to questions no. 20227 and
45645 for more information on the
negative consequences of marrying non-Muslim women.