Praise be to Allaah.
We are very upset to hear of the Muslims toying to such an
extent with the marriage contract which Allaah calls “a firm and strong
covenant” [al-Nisa’ 4:21].
We are astounded by this audacity in transgressing the sacred
limits of Allaah.
Would this lawyer or the husband or the witnesses agree for
his daughter or sister to be married in such a way, without his knowledge or
We do not think that anyone who has any kind of manhood or
decency would accept that for his daughter or sister, so why would they
accept it for the daughters of other people?
Moreover, with regard to these witnesses, what did they
witness? The wife was not present, and they did not hear from her or from
her guardian that she agreed to this marriage. It is not permissible for a
witness to bear witness to anything but that which he knows. As for the
lawyer or anyone else simply being trustworthy, that does not make it
permissible for them to bear witness to something that they do not know.
The marriage contract done in this manner is not valid,
because it is not valid for a woman to give herself in marriage, rather it
is essential that her guardian (wali) be present and give his consent. The
Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “There is no
marriage except with a guardian.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1101); classed as
saheeh by al-Albaani in Irwa’ al-Ghaleel (1893).
And the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) said: “Any woman who gets married without the permission of her
guardian, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is
invalid.” Narrated by al-Tirmidhi (1102), classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in
Irwa’ al-Ghaleel (1840).
Your saying that the marriage was done in accordance with the
madhhab of Abu Haneefah does not alter the ruling in the slightest, because
the opinion of anyone does not outweigh the words of the Messenger
(peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him), and the Messenger (peace
and blessings of Allaah be upon him) ruled as you know, that a woman cannot
give herself in marriage and that the marriage of one who gave herself in
marriage is invalid.
Shaykh Ahmad Shaakir (may Allaah have mercy on him) said some
very important words about this matter:
What no one among the scholars doubts is that the hadeeth
“There is no marriage except with a guardian” is a saheeh hadeeth, which is
proven by means of an isnaad which almost reaches the level of mutawaatir.
This is the view of all the scholars, which is supported by the Qur’aan, and
no one disagreed with that –as far as we know – except the Hanafis and those
who followed them. The early ones among them may be excused, as it may be
that the hadeeth did not reach them at that time with a saheeh isnaad. As
for the later ones among them, they fell pray to sectarianism and tried hard
to prove the reports weak or misinterpret them without any proof.
And now we can see – in many of the Muslim lands which follow
the Hanafi madhhab with regard to this issue – the destructive effects of
this view on morals, manners and people’s honour, which means that most of
the marriages of women who got married without their guardians or in spite
of them, are invalid according to sharee’ah, which means that their children
I urge the Muslim scholars and leaders in every land and
region to re-examine this serious issue and return to that which was
enjoined by Allaah and His Messenger, which is the requirement of a wise
wali in the marriage, so that we will avoid many of the dangers to which
women are exposed, because of their ignorance and rashness, and their
pursuit of false freedoms, and their following their whims and desires,
especially the misled ones among them, the educated class, which fills our
hearts with sorrow and grief. May Allaah guide us to the laws of Islam and
grant us a good end. End quote.
Mukhtasar Tafseer Ibn Katheer
Based on this, the marriage that took place between you is
not valid, and the way to make it valid is to do a new marriage contract in
the presence of your wali and two witnesses.
We ask Allaah to set your affairs straight.
And Allaah knows best.