Praise be to Allaah.
This is not a marriage, rather it is a deviation and calling
it a marriage is lying and deceit. What you must do is cut off ties with
this man who is toying with the rulings of Allaah, and regarding as
permissible that which Allaah has forbidden. His claim that this is a
marriage means that he regards it as permissible to do with you what a man
does with his wife. Wouldn’t any adulterer on the face of the earth be able
to do such a marriage with the immoral adulteress who is his partner in sin,
so that she would be his wife and they would not be committing adultery?!
We are afraid that he may gradually make you take off your
hijab in front of him or do something even worse, and take a picture of you
and try to threaten you with this picture. It is easy nowadays to combine
pictures with one another and threaten you using these pictures if you do
not do what he wants. Many such cases have happened. See the answer to
question no. 91868 and learn a lesson from it.
How many heedless women have been gradually tricked in such
ways by treacherous “wolves” until they lost their honour and chastity, then
these men leave them, forgetting about the so-called marriage, and there is
no maintenance and no rights, not even a divorce!
In a valid marriage it is essential that the woman’s guardian
be present, along with two witnesses of good character from among the
Muslims. Any marriage that is conducted without a guardian is invalid, and a
woman who gives herself in marriage without her guardian is a zaaniyah
(adulteress), as Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) said: “The
one who gives herself in marriage is a zaaniyah.” Narrated by al-Daaraqutni.
The Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him)
said: “There is no marriage except with a guardian and two witnesses.”
Narrated by al-Bayhaqi, classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh
al-Jaami’ no. 7557.
And he (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“Any woman who gives herself in marriage without the permission of her
guardian, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is
invalid.” Narrated by Ahmad (24417), Abu Dawood (2083) and al-Tirmidhi
(1102); classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami’ (2709).
Its seems to us from your question that you fear Allaah, may
He be exalted, and you do not want to fall into haraam and be exposed to the
wrath of the Almighty. Hence we advise you strongly to forget about this man
and to cut off all ties with him, via the internet or otherwise, for every
word, smile and moment of desire will be recorded against you, and tomorrow
you will be questioned about it before your Lord. So hasten to repent so
that these sins will be erased. We ask Allaah to forgive you and to divert
you away from this evildoer, and to protect the daughters of the Muslims.
See also questions no. 21933 and
And Allaah knows best.