Praise be to Allaah.
easy to get married, and not going to extremes in the mahr and in the
wedding expenses, are praiseworthy things, and they are good and bring
blessing to the couple. This is merciful towards the husband and spares him
from becoming burdened with debt, and it is merciful towards all young men
and saves them from temptation and makes it easy for them to remain chaste.
So reducing the amount of mahr is a good deed and we hope that you will be
blessed for doing that, by Allaah’s leave.
Baaz (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: Going to extremes in women’s
dowries is makrooh. It is Sunnah to ask for little and to be easy-going with
regard to that. End quote from Fataawa al-Shaykh Ibn Baaz (21/87).
‘Uthaymeen (may Allaah have mercy on him) was asked: What is your opinion
about going to extremes with dowries and extravagance in wedding parties and
especially in preparing for the so-called honeymoon? Does Islam approve of
Extravagance with regard to dowries and parties is contrary to sharee’ah.
The most blessed wedding is the one that costs the least. The less the
expense, the greater the blessing. The same applies to extravagance in
parties which is forbidden in Islam and is included in the verse in which
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
waste not by extravagance. Verily, He likes not Al‑Musrifoon (those who
waste by extravagance)”
should be done in the manner prescribed in sharee’ah, and no one should
transgress the limits or be extravagant, because Allaah forbids extravagance
and says: “Verily, He likes not
Al‑Musrifoon (those who waste by extravagance)”.
What may be
said about the honeymoon is that it is worse and more hateful, because it is
an imitation of non-Muslims, and it wastes a lot of money. It also leads to
neglect of many religious duties, especially if this time is spent in a
non-Muslim country, because they come back with habits and customs that harm
them and their society. These are things which we fear will adversely affect
the ummah. But if a man travels with his wife for ‘umrah or to visit
Madeenah, there is nothing wrong with that, in sha Allaah.
from Fataawa Islamiyyah (3/175).
questions no. 10525
In the event
that the vow is not fulfilled – which is better for you, as explained above
– then your mother must offer expiation for breaking an oath (kafaarat
yameen) because a permissible oath does not have to be fulfilled, rather one
has the choice between fulfilling it or offering expiation (kafaarat
yameen), by freeing a slave, feeding ten poor people with the average kind
of food that you eat, or clothing them. If none of that is possible then she
should fast for three days.
(may Allaah have mercy on him) said: A permissible vow includes such things
as wearing a certain garment or riding an animal… in this case the one who
made the vow has the choice of doing it and thus fulfilling the vow or if he
wishes he may forgo that and offer expiation (kafaarat yameen). End quote
from al-Mughni (10/70).
help us and you to do that which He loves and which pleases Him.