Two years ago I went to XXX and my parents had my nikah done. We haven't consumated the marriage but it was done this way so that it would help him to come here sooner and also so that we could go places together, when a mehram isn't present. Over the years I found some very disturbing things that I didn't have any knowledge about before. To give you some examples before my nikah I was assured that my husband prayed and was a good muslim. I found out that this was not the case and he only prayed on Fridays. I don't want to make the mistake that I have seen others gone through where both husband and wife differ. My parents said they have left the desicion up to me and that they are not going to have any say. I don't know whether I should stay in this marriage or not? How do I know if I'm making a mistake?
Praise be to Allaah.
If the marriage contract has been completed, with the
proposal and acceptance and with the presence of the wali (guardian) and two
witnesses, then the woman becomes the wife of the man, then she has
obligations like any other wife. He has the duties of providing maintenance
and accommodation, and has the right to physical intimacy etc. If the man
does not pray the five daily prayers, then he is a kaafir and the marriage
to him is invalid, even if he prays Jumu’ah. His visiting bad websites and
keeping mixed company are sins which he must give up, but that does not mean
that the marriage is invalid so long as this does not cause any harm to the
wife and children by exposing them to these things. Warding off evil takes
precedence over gaining benefits. Whatever the case, the main concern has to
do with the matter of his prayers. You have to make sure that the husband is
praying regularly, because the one who does not pray is a kaafir and it is
not permissible for a Muslim woman to stay married to him.