Praise be to Allaah.
We should point out with regard to the divorces mentioned
that whatever the shar‘i court had ruled to be valid is valid, or if you
already asked a scholar whatever he told you was valid is valid.
If there is no court ruling or scholarly verdict concerning
these divorces, then what appears to us to be the case is the following:
The first divorce: if this divorce was issued in a state of
extreme anger that drove him to divorce, and without that anger he would not
have issued that divorce, then it does not count as such according to the
more correct opinion, even if the husband was aware of what he was saying
when he was in that state of anger. See the answer to question no.
The second divorce: this comes under the heading of a
conditional divorce in which reference should be made to the husband’s
intention. If he intended it as a divorce then it counts as such, but if he
intended thereby to threaten and stop you doing something, then he has to
offer expiation for breaking an oath (kafaarat al-yameen). If he
cannot remember what his intention was, then it counts as a divorce.
The third divorce: if the husband was truly afraid that you
would kill the children or do them some obvious harm, then his divorce does
not count as such, because it was a divorce under compulsion.
The fourth divorce: this comes under the heading of
conditional divorce and does not count as such unless you did complain about
your problems to anyone, and the husband did intend divorce by what he
The fifth divorce: also comes under the heading of
conditional divorce. If the husband intended it as a divorce then it counts
Based on that, if you find out the kind of anger that
accompanied the first divorce, then you will know the ruling on it.
By referring to the husband and asking him about his
intention, the ruling on the second divorce will become clear.
He should also be asked about the third divorce, in order to
find out the ruling on it.
If your husband did not take you back after the final divorce
and your ‘iddah has ended, then this is an irrevocable divorce and you
cannot go back to him except with a new marriage contract, on condition that
the number of divorces that counted as such did not reach three.
And Allah knows best.