Praise be to Allaah.
We were very happy to receive this message and we praise
Allah, may He be exalted, for having enabled you to be keen to follow your
religion, adhere to the commands of your Lord and be patient in putting up
with the harm you encounter because of that. Allah, may He be exalted,
commanded His slaves to be patient and persevere, and to be steadfast in
obeying Him, no matter what harm they face. Allah, may He be exalted, says
(interpretation of the meaning):
“O you who believe! Endure and be more patient (than your
enemy), and guard your territory by stationing army units permanently at the
places from where the enemy can attack you, and fear Allah, so that you may
[Aal ‘Imraan 3:200]
“As for those who strive hard in Us (Our Cause), We will
surely guide them to Our Paths (i.e. Allahs Religion - Islamic Monotheism).
And verily, Allah is with the Muhsinoon (good doers)”
You should understand that whatever you face of difficulty
and harm for the sake of doing what Allah has enjoined upon you of acts of
worship, obligatory duties and wearing hijab, all of that is for the sake of
Allah, and your putting up with that harm and these problems is the best
kind of patience that Allah has enjoined upon His slaves: patience in
obeying Allah and patience in putting up with the harm that one may
encounter for the sake of his religion and his adherence to it. Allah, may
He be exalted, has told us that His Messengers announced to their people
that they would remain steadfast on the path of their Lord to which He had
guided them, no matter what befell them of harm from their people:
“And why should we not put our trust in Allah while He
indeed has guided us our ways. And we shall certainly bear with patience all
the hurt you may cause us, and in Allah (Alone) let those who trust, put
In the hadeeth, it is narrated that the Prophet (blessings
and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Ahead of you there are days of
patience when patience will be like grasping live coals, and the one who
does good deeds will have the reward of fifty men who do deeds like his.”
Someone else added: He said: O Messenger of Allaah, the reward of fifty of
them? He said: “The reward of fifty of you.”
Narrated by Abu Dawood, 4343; classed as qawiy by al-Albaani.
Think about this living example of one of those who came
before, their keenness to obey the Lord of the Worlds and how they put up
with hardships and horror in order to achieve that.
It was narrated that Khabbaab ibn al-Aratt said: “We
complained to the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon
him) when he was reclining on his cloak in the shade of the Ka’bah. And we
said: Why don’t you ask Allah to make us prevail? Why don’t you make du‘aa’
for us? He (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: “Among the
people who came before you, a man would be taken and put into a hole dug for
him in the earth, then a saw would be brought and put on his head and he
would be cut into two pieces, and that did still not turn him away from his
religion. And an iron comb would be used to tear the flesh from his bones or
sinews, but this still did not turn him away from his religion.” Narrated by
With regard to your mother, hers is a very strange case that
is very sad. Instead of the mother adhering to her religion and being an
example for her daughter and teaching her, she has become as you describe.
Verily to Allah we belong and verily to Him we shall return. We ask Allah to
guide her to His religion, open her heart to it and protect you against her
And beware of letting your mother and her stubbornness
prevent you from following the religion of Allah, may He be exalted, or
divert you from His path. Her anger with you for obeying your Lord does not
matter, because obedience to Allah takes precedence over obedience to anyone
else. The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “There is
no obedience to anyone if it involves sin; rather obedience is only in that
which is right and proper.” Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 7257; Muslim, 1840. And
he (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “There is no obedience
to any created being if it involves disobedience towards Allah, may He be
glorified and exalted.” Narrated by Ahmad, 1098
If you are not able to offer the prayers or follow any other
commands of your Lord or keep away from anything that Allah has forbidden
except by telling lies to your mother, there is no blame on you, in sha
Allah, for telling her lies, although it is better for you to employ double
entendres in your speech, i.e., tell her things that will make her feel
comfortable and spare you from her harm, whilst you intend a correct meaning
without drawing her attention to it. For example, if she asks you, “Did you
pray?” you can say, “No,” but what you intend in your heart is that you did
not pray Taraweeh, for example, or qiyaam al-layl, or you did not pray
anything except the fard (obligatory) prayer, and so on.
With regard to wearing hijab, try to convince her that this
is the command of your Lord and that it is also your choice, and strive hard
to avoid her evil and harm as much as you can. Seek the help of your Lord
and ask Him to guide her and keep you safe from her evil.
The traveller may avail himself of the concessions of
travelling, which include offering the four-rak‘ah prayers (Zuhr, ‘Asr and
‘Isha’) with two rak‘ahs only. This will make it easier for you to pray when
you are with your mother, because the time needed to pray two rak‘ahs is
shorter than the time needed to pray four.
Another concession granted to the traveller is that he may
put two prayers together, so he may pray Zuhr and ‘Asr together at the same
time, praying Zuhr with two rak‘ahs, then praying ‘Asr with two rak‘ahs.
That may be done at the time of the earlier prayer, i.e., offering the two
prayers at the time of Zuhr, before the usual time for ‘Asr begins, or it
may be done at the time of the later prayer, so if the time for Zuhr has
begun and he did not pray, he may wait until the time for ‘Asr begins, then
offer the two prayers together.
Similarly, Maghrib and ‘Isha’ prayers may be offered at the
time of the earlier or later prayer, but it should be noted that Maghrib
cannot be shortened when travelling; rather it should be offered with three
rak‘ahs as usual.
With regard to Fajr, it should be offered with two rak‘ahs at
the proper time, when dawn has broken, until the sun rises.
This putting together of prayers will be helpful for you,
because you can choose the time when your mother is not paying any attention
to you, or she is busy with something, or you can give her the impression
that you have gone to the bathroom, and the like, or you can pray when you
stop for a break, far away from her, or after you reach your destination, if
you are going to arrive before the time for the second prayer ends, and so
See also the answers to questions no.
Finally, we advise you to remain steadfast in your obedience
to your Lord, and be keen to please Him; always remember your Lord and read
His Book, so that your mind and heart will be at rest and you will increase
in guidance. Strive hard to learn the rulings of your religion and adhere to
them as much as you can, until Allah grants you relief and a way out from
the situation you are in.
And Allah knows best.