Praise be to Allaah.
Giving a wedding party and inviting people to express joy and
announce the marriage, is something that is extra and recommended with
regard to marriage, but it is not one of the conditions or essentials.
The Prophet (blessings and peace of Allah be upon him) said:
“Proclaim the marriage.” Narrated by Ahmad (15697); classed as hasan by al-Albaani.
Al-Munaawi said: What is meant by proclaiming it is
broadcasting news of it among the people.
End quote from Fayd al-Qadeer, 2/14
Ibn Qudaamah said: It is mustahabb to announce the marriage
and bang the daff (hand drum) for it… so that it will become well known and
End quote from al-Mughni, 9/467
Holding a wedding party is one of the most common ways of
announcing the marriage.
There is no doubt that your mother’s request to have a
wedding party is the desire of every mother who loves to express joy and
celebrate her daughter’s wedding, as well as taking into account people’s
traditions and culture.
So at least have a small party, even if it is limited to the
family, at reasonable cost and avoiding extravagance and wasting money. This
will please your mother and will also achieve the purpose of announcing and
proclaiming the marriage.
If you cannot do that, there is nothing wrong with you going
to live with your husband even if you do not have a wedding party, because
the marriage contract is complete and valid so long as it is done with the
consent of both spouses and the woman’s guardian, and in the presence of
See also the answer to question no.
And Allah knows best.