Praise be to Allaah.
Infertility is one of the faults that affect marriage
according to the more correct of the two scholarly opinions. This has been
discussed previously in the answer to question number
The suitor has to disclose it, and the woman to whom he
proposes has the right to accept him or reject him. If she accepts him with
this fault, she does not have the right to request an annulment later on
because of not having children. If she does not know about the fault and
then finds out about it after marriage, she has the right to ask for an
annulment if she does not accept the fault.
Ibn Qudaamah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said: One of the
conditions of having the option to annul the marriage because of these
faults is that one should not have had knowledge of them at the time of the
marriage contract and should not have accepted them afterwards; if the
person knew of them at the time of the contract or came to know of them
afterwards and accepted them, then he or she does not have the option of
annulling the marriage contract, and we do not know of any scholarly
difference of opinion concerning that. End quote from al-Mughni,
Having children is a blessing and is one of the aims of
marriage, so a woman should not marry a man who is sterile or infertile
unless she knows that it is possible for him to be treated and recover.
If your family are rejecting the suitor, then they are
excused for that. Undoubtedly they are seeking your best interests and
striving for your happiness.
If you think that this suitor is appropriate for you, because
of his good character and religious commitment and because it is possible to
treat his infertility, then you have no choice but to convince your family
to accept him. If you manage to do that than praise be to Allaah; but if
they insist on their opinion, then they are excused as stated above, and
perhaps Allaah will send you someone who is better than this suitor.
It is well-known that marriage is not valid without a wali or
guardian, because the Prophet (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him)
said: “There is no marriage without a guardian.” Narrated by Abu Dawood
(2085), al-Tirmidhi (1101) and Ibn Maajah (1881) from the hadeeth of Abu
Moosa al-Asha’ri; classed as saheeh by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Tirmidhi.
And he (blessings and peace of Allaah be upon him) said: “Any
woman who gets married without the permission of her guardian, her marriage
is invalid, her marriage is invalid, her marriage is invalid.” Narrated by
Ahmad (24417), Abu Dawood (2083) and al-Tirmidhi (1102); classed as saheeh
by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Jaami, no. 2709.
We ask Allaah to guide and help you.
And Allaah knows best.