Please accept my apology if this questions offends, but in
the pursuit of Islamic knowledge, we cannot afford to be
shy for fear that if we are not well advised, we may commit a
I have been advised by a friend that there is a "qawl"
(opinion) among some ulamaa' (scholars) that it is
permissible to conduct anal sex (anal penetration) (between
man and wife only) during the time of the wife's haydh
Is this correct?
Please also advise the laws and penalties relevant to it.
Praise be to Allah.
Your apology is accepted. Striving to understand the rulings of Sharee'ah in
this and similar matters is not haraam or shameful; it is necessary.
As regards your question, anal intercourse with one's wife is a major sin, whether
it occurs at the time of menstruation or not. The Prophet
SAWS (Peace & Blessings of Allah be upon Him) cursed the one who does this:
"Cursed is the one who approaches his wife in her rectum" (Reported
by Imaam Ahmad, 2/479; see also Saheeh al-Jaami', 5865).
The Prophet SAWS (Peace & Blessings of Allah be
upon Him) also said: "The one who has intercourse with a menstruating woman,
or with a woman in her rectum, or who goes to a fortune-teller, has disbelieved
in what was revealed to Muhammad." (Reported by al-Tirmidhi,
no. 1/243; see also Saheeh al-Jaami', 5918).
In spite of the fact that many wives of sound nature refuse this, there are
some husbands who threaten their wives with divorce if they do not obey them
(in this matter), and some even deceive their wives, who are too shy to ask
scholars about it, into thinking that it is permissible. The Prophet
SAWS (Peace & Blessings of Allah be upon Him) said that a man may approach his
wife in any way he likes, from the front or the back, so long as intercourse
takes place in the place from through which a child is born. There is no doubt
that the rectum is the place from which waste matter is expelled, not the place
from which a child is born.
Another reason why some may commit this immoral act is that they enter upon
what should be a clean married life with some jaahili (ignorant) traditions
and odd practices, or with memories of scenes from indecent movies, for which
they have not repented to Allaah.
It is known that this act is forbidden even if both partners agree to it. Mutual
consent to a haraam deed does not make it halaal.
I ask Allah to bestow upon us a proper understanding of His religion and to
make us adhere to its limits, for He is the All-Hearing, the One Who answers
Sheikh Muhammed Salih Al-Munajjid