Praise be to Allaah.
It is permissible for a
Muslim man to marry a Christian woman, if she is chaste. Because Allaah says
(interpretation of the meaning):
“Made lawful to you this
day are At‑Tayyibaat [all kinds of Halaal (lawful) foods, which Allaah has
made lawful (meat of slaughtered eatable animals, milk products, fats,
vegetables and fruits)]. The food (slaughtered cattle, eatable animals) of
the people of the Scripture (Jews and Christians) is lawful to you and yours
is lawful to them. (Lawful to you in marriage) are chaste women from the
believers and chaste women from those who were given the Scripture (Jews and
Christians) before your time when you have given their due Mahr
(bridal-money given by the husband to his wife at the time of marriage),
desiring chastity (i.e. taking them in legal wedlock) not committing illegal
sexual intercourse, nor taking them as girlfriends”
However it is not advisable
to marry a kitaabi (i.e., Jewish or Christian) woman nowadays, because it is
fraught with dangers, especially with regard to the children’s upbringing.
Shaykh Ibn Baaz (may Allaah
have mercy on him) said: If the kitaabi woman is known to be chaste and to
keep away from the things that lead to immoral actions, then it is
permissible, because Allaah has permitted us to marry their women and eat
But nowadays there is the
fear of great evil for those who marry them, because they may call him to
their religion and that may lead to his children becoming Christian, so the
danger is great. In order to be on the safe side, the believer should not
marry her. Moreover, there is no guarantee that she will not fall into
immoral ways, and attribute to him children who are not his. But if he needs
to do that then there is nothing wrong with it, so that he can keep himself
chaste and lower his gaze, and he should strive to call her to Islam, and
beware of her evil lest she drag him or the children into kufr (disbelief). End quote
from Fataawa Islamiyyah (3/172).
Hence you can see that the
Christianization of the children is one of the greatest dangers to be feared
as a result of marrying a Christian woman. Undoubtedly it is not permissible
for you to allow that under any circumstances. You should have made it clear
to her before marriage that your children would be Muslims and that they
could not be made Christians, and that this issue was not open to discussion
What you have to do now is
protect your son’s religion and prevent him from being made a Christian. If
your wife insists on that then you have no choice but to make her stay with
you in your city, or keep the child only, even if that leads to you leaving
her and divorcing her. This is a serious matter, because it is the matter of
kufr and faith; we seek refuge with Allaah from misguidance.
It should be noted that the
child’s being baptized does not actually make him a Christian, rather he is
a Muslim who follows the religion of his Muslim father, and he cannot become
a Christian unless he understands Christianity and chooses it for himself.
As for his baptism, he has no choice in the matter, and it does not affect
the religion which Allaah created in him, which is Islam.
Try by all means to protect
this child and prevent him being taught Christian teachings. Remember that
you are responsible for him and that the worst neglect and betrayal of this
trust would be to leave him disbelieving in Allaah.
We ask Allaah to protect
you and your offspring and to divert evil away from them.
And Allaah knows best.