Praise be to Allaah.
Congratulations on your repentance, O slave of Allaah.
Congratulations on turning back to your Lord. Praise be to Allaah Who has
saved you from the path of misguidance and temptation, and has brought you
back to the path of repentance and guidance. May Allaah increase you in
guidance, righteousness and piety, and make you steadfast in following the
straight path, until you meet Him in a state of goodness that He loves and
is pleased with.
You should realize that the shaytaan will never give up
easily after you have repented, and he will never leave you alone, because
you were one of his troops and you have left him without his permission or
approval! Now you have become one of the troops of the Most merciful. You
were one of his gang, but now you have gone over to his enemies. Allaah has
blessed you with guidance and you have annoyed him. So obviously he will
try, by all means possible, to take you back to the way you were before. So
you have to be patient and steadfast, and keep company with righteous people
who will help you to follow the truth.
We ask Allaah to accept from you your protective jealousy
concerning the deen, and your enjoining what is good and forbidding what is
evil, and your love for people to be guided.
You should look at your situation from two viewpoints:
1 – That you have recently been guided
2 – That you are calling people to Allaah.
1 – With regard to the first issue:
Our advice to you is to be patient in putting up with
offensive and foolish attitudes, but you may use harsh measures if
necessary. That applies if it has to do with making fun of the deen, and you
are able to prevent it or stop it.
The shaytaan has troops whom he sends to trick and plot and
keep people from following the deen. These troops are not all from among the
jinn; he also has human troops. They are the ones who fulfil his mission of
preventing people from obeying Allaah and pushing them to commit sins.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And so We have appointed for every Prophet enemies —
Shayaateen (devils) among mankind and jinn, inspiring one another with
adorned speech as a delusion (or by way of deception). If your Lord had so
willed, they would not have done it; so leave them alone with their
But your Lord offers you peace of mind, a great reward of
steadfastness on the Day of Resurrection if you bear the insults of these
foolish people with patience in this world. The reward is a rise in status
on the Day of Resurrection, and our Lord warns them of a severe punishment
if they die in their folly and mocking the believers.
“Beautified is the life of this world for those who
disbelieve, and they mock at those who believe. But those who obey Allaah’s
Orders and keep away from what He has forbidden, will be above them on the
Day of Resurrection. And Allaah gives (of His Bounty, Blessings, Favours,
and Honours on the Day of Resurrection) to whom He wills without limit”
“Verily, (during the worldly life) those who committed
crimes used to laugh at those who believed.
30. And, whenever they passed by them, used to wink one to
another (in mockery).
31. And when they returned to their own people, they would
32. And when they saw them, they said: ‘Verily, these have
indeed gone astray!’
33. But they (disbelievers, sinners) had not been sent as
watchers over them (the believers).
34. But this Day (the Day of Resurrection) those who
believe will laugh at the disbelievers
35. On (high) thrones, looking (at all things).
36. Are not the disbelievers paid (fully) for what they
used to do?”
Ibn Katheer (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
Here Allaah tells us that those who committed crimes used to
laugh at the believers in this world, i.e., they used to make fun of them
and scorn them, and when they passed by the believers they would wink at one
another (in mockery), i.e., mocking them.
“And when they returned to their own people, they would
return jesting” i.e., when these people who committed crimes went back
to their homes, they would return jesting, i.e., whatever they looked for
they would find, but despite that they did not appreciate the blessing that
Allaah had bestowed on them, rather they were preoccupied with scorning and
envying the believers.
“And when they saw them, they said: ‘Verily, these have
indeed gone astray!’” i.e., because they were following a religion other
Allaah says “But they (disbelievers, sinners) had not been
sent as watchers over them (the believers)” i.e., these evildoers were
not sent as watchers over these believers to see what they did and said, and
they were not put in charge of them, so why should they spend their time
watching them and keeping an eye on them, as Allaah says (interpretation of
“He (Allaah) will say: ‘Remain you in it with ignominy!
And speak you not to Me!’
109. Verily, there was a party of My slaves, who used to
say: ‘Our Lord! We believe, so forgive us, and have mercy on us, for You are
the Best of all who show mercy!’
110. But you took them for a laughing stock, so much so
that they made you forget My remembrance while you used to laugh at them!
111. Verily, I have rewarded them this Day for their
patience; they are indeed the ones that are successful”
Hence He says to them here [al-Mutaffiffeen 83:34]: “this
Day” i.e., the Day of Resurrection.
“But this Day (the Day of Resurrection) those who believe
will laugh at the disbelievers” i.e., in return for their laughing at
“On (high) thrones, looking” i.e., looking at Allaah,
may He be glorified and exalted, in return for the claim that they were
misguided. But they were not misguided, rather they were among the friends
of Allaah who are close to Him, looking at their Lord in a place of honour.
“Are not the disbelievers paid (fully) for what they used
to do?” i.e., have the kuffaar been requited for what they used to do of
mocking and belittling the believers, or not? i.e., they have been amply
requited, in full.
Tafseer Ibn Katheer (8/353,
So be patient and seek reward with Allaah for putting up with
the folly of these people. Persist in reminding them of the ruling on their
actions, and that if they subject the deen to mockery they have gone beyond
the pale of Islam and joined their brethren among the kuffaar and evildoers,
whose state is mentioned in the verses quoted above.
2 – With regard to the second issue:
Our advice is to follow the appropriate means of dealing with
these sick people, because now you are not only a man who found the truth
and followed it, rather you are a caller who is calling people to Allaah,
and you want to take these people across a sea of darkness and bring them to
a land of safety. So our advice to you is to acquire more Islamic knowledge
and to do more acts of worship that will bring you closer to your Creator,
may He be glorified and exalted, and to be wise in conveying the message of
the Lord of the Worlds to these sick people. Wisdom means putting things in
the right place. So the basic principle in dealing with them is to be kind
and gentle, but that does not mean that you should not take harsh measures
with some of them if you think that it will deter them.
Allaah says (interpretation of the meaning):
“And by the Mercy of Allaah, you dealt with them gently.
And had you been severe and harsh‑hearted, they would have broken away from
about you; so pass over (their faults), and ask (Allaah’s) forgiveness for
[Aal ‘Imraan 3:159]
Shaykh ‘Abd al-Rahmaan al-Sa’di (may Allaah have mercy on
A good attitude on the part of a religious leader attracts
people to the religion of Allaah in addition to the praise and special
reward they bring to the one who has that attitude. A bad attitude on the
part of a religious leader puts people off the religion and makes them hate
it, in addition to the condemnation and special punishment they bring to the
one who has that attitude. Allaah said this to His Messenger who is
infallible, so how about others?
Is it not of the utmost importance and necessity to follow
his good example and deal with people as he dealt with them, with kindness,
a good attitude and friendliness, in obedience to the command of Allaah and
so as to attract the slaves of Allaah to the religion of Allaah?
Then Allaah commanded him to forgive them for their
shortcomings towards him, and to pray for forgiveness for them with regard
to their shortcomings towards Allaah, and to combine forgiveness and
Tafseer al-Sa’di (p. 154). See
also Tafseer al-Tabari (7/341).
It was narrated from ‘Urwah ibn al-Zubayr that ‘Aa’ishah (may
Allaah be pleased with her), the wife of the Prophet (peace and
blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: A group of Jews entered upon the
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) and
they said: Al-saam ‘alaykum (death be upon you). ‘Aa’ishah said: I
understood it and said: Rather may death be upon you, and curses. The
Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:
“O ‘Aa’ishah, Allaah has enjoined kindness in all things.” She said: Did you
not hear what they said? He said: “I said: And also upon you.”
Narrated by al-Bukhaari (5678) and Muslim (2165).
Al-Nawawi (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
This reflects the greatness of his character and his
forbearance. It encourages us to be kind, patient and forbearing, to be
gentle with people, so long as there is no need for harshness.
Sharh al-Nawawi ‘ala Muslim
Al-Shawkaani (may Allaah have mercy on him) said:
This hadeeth shows that it is mustahabb for the people of
virtue to ignore the folly of the wrongdoers, so long as that will not lead
to spread of corruption.
Nayl al-Awtaar (8/146).
With regard to your family:
You have to be patient and put up with their annoyance, and
keep on advising and reminding them, and do not give up. Strive hard to
guide them, using various means, and be kind to them. Do not give free rein
to your wife if her sitting with her family involves any sins or evils,
unless she is able to change them. Her shyness towards them should not make
her incur the wrath of her Lord by listening to or watching haraam things.
She also has the great responsibility to stand beside her husband and
support him, and help him to remain steadfast in adhering to guidance and
obedience to Allaah.
We are sorry to hear that your mother said such awful things,
and we do not know how she could say it. Perhaps she does not know what some
of those who take drugs have done to their mothers and sisters and she does
not know how they have ruined families and societies, or how much money,
time and effort the families have spent until Allaah guided their sons who
used to take drugs and intoxicants, because of the evil that they saw in
With regard to your work:
We think that you have done well to ask to be transferred to
another place that is better, especially since you have only recently been
guided and repented, and you need good companions who can show you the way
to goodness, and encourage you to do good and warn you against evil and
encourage you to refrain from it.
We reiterate that the basic principle in dealing with others
is to be kind and gentle with your family, work colleagues and others, but
there is nothing wrong with being harsh with those who deserve it, if you
think that this will serve the interest of stopping him from mocking the
deen and making fun of it.
And Allaah knows best.