I visit my (paternal) aunt, knowing that she does not feel comfortable
with me in her house, and after every visit she causes endless problems?
In order to prevent further problems, I have decided not to visit her, but
I greet her with salaams whenever I see her.
Praise be to Allaah.
purpose of visiting is to uphold the ties of kinship and to strengthen the bonds
(between family members). If the visits only serve to drive people further apart,
then it is better not to visit, and to allow other means of keeping in touch
to suffice, such as phone calls and the like.
it is better to strive to deal with the causes of these feelings and problems
with your aunt. (See also Question #4631).