Praise be to
It is not permissible for the Muslim to
take a non-Muslim as a close friend, because Allah, may He be exalted, says
(interpretation of the meaning):
“O you who
Take not the Jews and the Christians as Auliya
(friends, protectors, helpers, etc.), they are but Auliya to one another. And if any amongst you takes them as
Auliya, then surely he is one of them. Verily, Allah
guides not those people who are the Zalimoon
(polytheists and wrongdoers and unjust)”
“O you who
Take not as (your) Bitanah (advisors, consultants,
protectors, helpers, friends, etc.) those outside your religion (pagans, Jews,
Christians, and hypocrites) since they will not fail to do their best to
corrupt you. They desire to harm you severely. Hatred has already appeared from
their mouths, but what their hearts conceal is far worse. Indeed We have made plain to you the Ayat
(proofs, evidences, verses) if you understand”
[Aal ‘Imraan 3:118].
And there are other verses that forbid
loving the disbelievers and taking them as confidantes and close friends.
(4832) and at-Tirmidhi (2395) narrated from Abu Sa‘eed that the Prophet (blessings
and peace of Allah be upon him) said: “Do not keep company with anyone but a
believer and do not let anyone eat your food but one who is pious.”
Classed as saheeh
by Ibn Hibbaan; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh Abi Dawood.
Friendship and keeping company leads to
love and approval, and it is not permissible to show that towards the kaafir.
This does not mean that there should be
a complete cutting off of ties between Muslims and non-Muslims; rather she can
visit her socially and when she is sick, and give her gifts, without loving her
or taking part in her festivals, and her intention in visiting her and giving
her gifts should be to call her to Islam. This is what our Prophet (blessings
and peace of Allah be upon him) did. See question no. 23325
Based on that, you should explain to
your daughter the guidelines on interacting with non-Muslims and help her to
develop a feeling of pride in her religion and adhering to its commands, even
if that goes against one’s whims and desires. You should also discourage her
from thinking of spending the night outside her home, because sleeping over in
someone else’s house is indicative of very close friendship, and we have stated
above that it is not permissible for the Muslim to form such a close friendship
with a non-Muslim. Perhaps she may be attracted to some of their ways and
influenced by that without realising. The negative
consequences of mixing too much with people who are not religiously committed
are many, so how about mixing with people who are not of the same religion?
And Allah knows best.